"Your children will follow your example, not your advise". This simple wisdom applies to adults as well. If a woman radiates that she is just as capable as men, men will have no reason to deny her equal rights and obligations.
Of course, for a woman to radiate such selfworthiness, she will have to feel autonomous and selfreliant. And that is where society comes in. In our male-dominated society everything is modelled to typical male needs.
To generalize, men prefer to pay for something they want and thus get it fast and anonimously. A man feels autonomous when he earns money to provide for his own and his family's needs. Often women prefer to swap and trade and built upon trust and relationships. A woman feels autonomous when she has the chance to base her decisions on her own intuition. The concept of money and the fast and anonimous trading of goods made possible by money does not comply with the intuitive decisionmaking that women naturally feel attracted to.
Of course, women are as capable as men to play the money game, just as men are as capable as women to build relationships and be intuitively, but there should be a free choice that is supported by society (micro and macro). That would enhance gender equality greatly.
This is why I aim at increasing autonomy (focus on selfreliance) instead of feminism or other activism (focus on fighting the status quo). Everyone should have the chance to feel interdependence, which makes activism outdated.